By Deanna Atkins for CupidsPulse.com
While it’s easy to assume that no one really stays together anymore, that’s not entirely true. There are plenty of people who still value their vows and commitment to each other, people who will do whatever it takes to ensure that promise isn’t broken. Unfortunately, since this mentality isn’t instilled in everyone, we constantly hear about couples calling it quits, even more so thanks to the media and celebrities. Most recently, Katie Holmes and Tom Cruise threw in the towel after a mere five years of marriage. It’s becoming more socially acceptable to just put the kibosh on this sacred union instead of actually taking the time and making the effort to stay together. Sure, there are those marriages that were doomed from the start (like Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries), but if you find yourself contemplating the big ‘d’-word, marriage counseling may be the key to getting your relationship back on track.
It’s Private: No one needs to know that you and your husband are seeking a counselor; which means you can keep your marital woes under wraps. Often time, cracks in a marriage are easily visible to those around you, but that doesn’t mean you need to air your dirty laundry to family and friends. If you have a set place and time where you can talk and be open with one another, it will decrease the chances of an unnecessary argument during family dinner or a blow-out fight during a get-together with your neighbors.
The Environment is Controlled: It’s not always easy to keep your cool during a heated argument with your hubby, but in counseling, you can speak calmly and feel safe to voice what you really need to say – without wanting to put on your boxing gloves.
Get a Different Perspective: We like to believe that we know everything, and we’re always right, but we know that isn’t really true. By seeking an outsider’s influence, you’ll learn a lot about yourself, your partner and your relationship, things that you wouldn’t know with a closed mind.
Yes, there are books you can read and Google searches you can do, but it won’t give you the experience of sitting down with a mediator and truly opening up to your spouse. Marriage counseling shouldn’t be feared or be thought of as a last resort. It’s important to make sure you don’t wait until your marriage has reached the point of no return to consider counseling. It’s a useful tool that no one should be ashamed of or afraid of. Most importantly, it may save your marriage.
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