What to Expect When You’re Expecting and Tips for Dealing with Stress During a Post-Miscarriage Pregnancy
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Even the most perfect, healthy pregnancy can be stressful, but for someone who has experienced a previous miscarriage, or multiple miscarriages, pregnancy can be downright scary. Every ache and pain, every moment without a kick in later pregnancy, every time you bump your stomach… it can all make you worry. I’m speaking from experience – I had two miscarriages before we had our daughter, and the pregnancy with her started as twins. When I lost the twin and started bleeding at about 7 weeks, I nearly had a panic attack.
For anyone in the same situation – pregnant with their “rainbow baby,” or a baby born after a miscarriage – or anyone pregnant and just experiencing the every day worries of pregnancy, it’s great to have resources to turn to for information and reassurance. What to Expect When You’re Expecting has always been one of those resources that most pregnant women turn to because it is the absolute most informative pregnancy book… Pretty much ever known to man, which is why it’s been a bestseller for decades. The 5th addition has recently been released and includes entirely new sections on coping with miscarriage, stillbirth, and other pregnancy loss. The new addition also has updates on medical information including the Zika virus and taking medications during pregnancy.
Tips for Dealing with Pregnancy Stress After Miscarriage
Having dealt with multiple miscarriages before a successful pregnancy, I’ve experienced the stress and anxiety that can come with it. I’m in no way a medical professional, but I do feel that learning to cope with the stress as I did may help others in the same situation.
Cry if you need to. It’s ok to be happy that you are pregnant again, but also feel sad about the loss of your previous pregnancy or pregnancies.
Call your doctor or midwife whenever you need to. That’s what they’re there for. I’m pretty sure that by the end of my pregnancy, my midwife was glad to be rid of me because I texted her over Every. Little. Thing.
Lean on your partner. If you are worried, talk to them. Share your thoughts and feelings with them. Men feel the pain of a miscarriage, too, they just express it in different ways. They are likely just as worried as you are, and maybe moreso.
Lean on friends and family. You might be surprised how many women you know have experienced the exact situation you are in. After my first miscarriage, I learned that my mom, my mother in law, and two of my close friends had all experienced miscarriages. They all knew exactly how I was feeling and were there for me whenever I needed to talk, no matter how irrational my worries were.
Keep yourself healthy. It’s important to keep your body healthy for you and the baby, but it is also important to keep your mind healthy. Stress can affect the baby and your pregnancy, so if you feel that it is getting out of hand, speak with your doctor or seek the help of a therapist. There is no shame in asking for help, especially when the health of your unborn baby is involved.
I highly recommend What to Expect When You’re Expecting for all moms, first time or fifth time, carrying rainbow babies or not.Even if you’ve read the past copies, each edition is updated with up-to-the-minute advice and information relevant to now.
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