Getting married is a pretty serious decision. It’s something that’s going to impact the rest of your life, and it’s certainly not something that you should take lightly. Of course, when it comes to getting married, there’s only really one place to start: the proposal. Even people who are absolutely sure about wanting to get married still worry about the proposal since it’s often something that you have very little say in. After all, you’re usually expected to be totally surprised by the proposal, and there’s certainly something wonderful about that. However, that doesn’t mean that you should be totally absent from the planning of it. Why shouldn’t you get a say in how one of the most magical and important moments of your life plays out?
Choose the ring
Let’s be honest, one of the most important parts of any proposal is always going to be the ring. Without it, many people would say it’s not a proposal at all. So why do so many couples leave it to the one doing the proposing to choose the ring? After all, if you’re going to be wearing it, shouldn’t you get some say in what it looks like. Everyone’s taste is different. Some people want a traditional white diamond with a simple design; others prefer yellow engagement rings with intricate patterns of jewels. There’s no right or wrong answer; it’s simply a matter of what you like best. By choosing the ring together, you can guarantee that you’re not going to end up stuck wearing something that you don’t really like.
Talk about where you want it to happen
Everyone has different ideas of their perfect proposal, especially in terms of where and how they want it to happen. Some people would prefer a quiet dinner at home where you’re cozy and comfy; others want to be wined and dined somewhere fancy first; others want it to be somewhere public so that everyone can see. These are all deeply personal choices and making the wrong call can ruin a proposal. Discuss the kinds of places that you would like to be proposed to with your partner. Obviously, don’t give them a time and place where they have to do it, but at the very least you can nudge them in the right direction with some subtle hints here and there.
Make sure that you’re both ready
The most important reason that you should discuss the proposal with your partner is to make sure that it’s something that you’re both ready for. A lot of people feel like they should propose or that it’s the thing they’re expected to do without really being sure if it’s what they want. You could be totally happy with your relationship the way it is right now without worrying about adding in extra complications with things like marriage. Getting engaged is a wonderful and exciting thing that can fill your life with plenty of joy, it’s just something that you need to be totally sure about before you decide to do it.