A marriage definitely is a marathon. We just want to put it out there that nearly half of all marriages fail, and well over half of all engagements break up before it’s even time to walk down the aisle. We’re living in a generation where it’s ok to get divorced, or it’s ok to break apart when making such a big commitment such as an engagement. Rewind 60 years ago, and getting a divorce would have been a huge thing. If someone go divorced, absolutely everyone knew about it, even the people who didn’t have a clue who they were. Marriage was so much more valued, and it was far easier to put your trust in someone. That’s the reason why we think so many marriages break apart now. Technology, and a lack of trust. But, considering you are probably still madly in love with your partner, or maybe you might be starting to have a few doubts… we want to show you how you can keep your marriage alive. It’s easy enough to do, all you need to do is have time to focus on each other!
So, this is one of the biggest reasons why marriages break apart in our opinion. People just don’t have time for each other, especially when a family is started. We’re not saying that starting a family is a bad thing. But, once it happens, it’s so easy for the children to become the main focus, and the parents never really have any quality time together, other than the hour of TV once the kids have gone to bed. So, we urge you to make some time to actually sit down, talk to each other, and laugh like you used to when you first got together. You could share a bottle of wine and get giddy with each other. You could look at old pictures of you both from when you first got together! As long as you’re doing something that actually involves you talking to each other, rather than sitting in a room in silence, it will be easy enough to keep your marriage alive! Quality time is not spent with other people either. Some married couples always go out with their friends, which is fine on the odd occasion throughout the month. But, if you’re only every spending time with friends, and never alone, you might find it hard to have that connection that you once would have used to have!
When you start to have some real serious issues, then you know you’ve got a bit of a problem on your hand. As we said, nearly half of all marriages are now breaking down, and it’s because issues just can’t be worked through. If it was something like cheating, which a lot of marriages are falling apart from, a divorce lawyer would have to get involved to make sure things such as the house and other assets are divided equally. Because people really do forget that marriage is not just a love commitment. So many important things will have been bought together. A family might have been made. So sometimes, it’s often better to try and work through problems, unless of course it’s something like unfaithfulness.
So, if you feel as though you’re having a serious problem that isn’t something that will break you apart, but your marriage just isn’t the same as it once used to be, then you might benefit from counselling. Sometimes, it’s just that couples lose the ability to communicate, and it makes it so much harder to work through problems. Counselling is such a good option if you’re both desperate to get back to your normal happy marriage, but you’re just not sure how to get there! Having someone who won’t judge, but is there to help, is the best way to get the advice you need.
Keeping It Fun
Finally, we really do think that you need to keep it fun, no matter how old you are. If you start slipping into that mindset of you are old, so you’re going to act old, things become so much more boring. You need to be able to go out and enjoy yourselves! Have drinks, go go karting, go to the cinema, go and do silly things that you would have done when you first got together. If you keep that sort of teenage love mindset, and keep your relationship full of fun, how would you ever get bored of each other anyway!