Recent statistics show that 20 percent of married men and 13 percent of married women admit to cheating on their spouses—and the actual numbers are even higher for certain age groups. Nobody wants to believe that their partner is cheating on them, but if your partner’s behavior has you wondering whether he or she is being faithful, then you obviously want to find out for sure. But what should you do if you think your partner is cheating on you? Here are three things you can do to deal with suspected infidelity.
Confront Your Partner and Voice Your Concerns
When you suspect that your partner is cheating on you, the trust in your relationship is breaking down. And that needs to be addressed, even if doing so seems like a painful experience that you’d rather avoid. When you do sit down with your partner to discuss your concerns, it’s important to know what to do and what not to do.
Unless you have undeniable proof of infidelity, such as eye-witness reports from people you know and trust, explicit text messages or something like that, it’s best to not make strong accusations up front. Suspicions and “gut feelings” are not always accurate, so you want to give your partner the benefit of the doubt when first addressing the issue.
Consult with a Professional
Seeking the advice of a licensed therapist can help you get another perspective on your situation. If your partner is displaying signs that they are secretly looking outside of the relationship for companionship, a trained professional—outside of the situation—could help point out what you might be overlooking.
Additionally, a professional psychic might actually be able to help you tune into your own feelings and experiences surrounding your relationship with your partner. Whether you believe in paranormal abilities or not, working with an outside source can actually be an eye-opening experience and could help you get a wider perspective on the issue. If you feel silly going to see a psychic in person, turning to a medium with over-the-phone or online psychic services could be beneficial to your situation.
Hire a Private Investigator
If you’ve discussed your concerns with your partner and aren’t convinced that everything is actually okay, and if you’ve sought input from other people who are not emotionally connected to you or your partner without resolving the issue, then you might decide it’s time to take more serious measures.
Hiring a private investigator to check on your partner’s activities when you are not around is not uncommon. If your partner is actually cheating but won’t confess to it, then getting hard evidence like videos and photos might be necessary. And if you end up getting a divorce, that physical evidence will be invaluable in divorce court when seeking damages.
Trust is essential for any relationship to be successful. If your trust in your partner has been eroding due to suspicious behaviors that have you thinking he or she might be cheating on you, then you need to address these concerns sooner rather than later. There might be perfectly innocent explanations for what you perceive to be suspicious activity, but you’ll never know without taking action. And letting your suspicions go unchecked will only make you feel more frustrated and resentful. So try taking these steps to see whether or not your partner is being faithful and honest.