When it comes to being in a relationship, and opening yourself up to someone else body and soul, there needs to be a great deal of trust and communication there. You need to be able to talk to one another, and to be able feel healthy and happy in each other’s presence – and sometimes, evoking that feeling is a lot easier said than done.
Which is why it’s so important to stay aware of the potential problems that could crop up in a relationship, especially a romantic one. You want to go all the way with this person, and maybe settle down with them one day, and that means you need a trusting and healthy foundation to look back on.
So with that in mind, let’s think about the ways you can stay vigilant and aware of issues cropping up between the two of you.
Coax Each Other Out of Your Shells
You and your partner know each other better than anyone, and that means you’re the best people for the job when a problem crops up between you. You can sit down together, get comfortable with each other very easily, and gently coax each other out of your shells – and this is important for being open in a relationship. After all, if you’re not feeling comfortable around your significant other, or you feel you can’t be yourself without being doubted or ridiculed, you’re not going to tell them your innermost thoughts.
That can slowly poison the feeling between you. So create that safe space. Spot when the other person is feeling down, and sit them down. Let the person you love know that you love them, and that you hear them, and that you’re listening.
Never Bottle it Up
On the other hand, make sure you’re sharing your feelings as well, and don’t let your own thoughts and emotions be a wall your partner can never climb! You listen to them, and then they listen to you – make sure there’s a balance between the two of you, and that you’re never letting your significant other feel their emotions aren’t as important as your seemingly impenetrable ones! This lack of communication, often completely accidental, is the leading cause of hiring on a divorce lawyer, let’s face it.
Don’t Let Yourself Give Up
And if you’ve done all of these things – you’ve been the listener and you’ve been listened to – but you still feel you’re not getting anywhere with discussing the problem you might have in your relationship, don’t give up! Don’t let yourself draw away, and don’t let the trail go cold – it’ll count against you in the long run.
Your partner might think you’re disinterested, or they might think they’re not worth the effort. And make sure you bring up their own behaviour; ask them why they won’t talk, or why they’re just letting the discussion go. Don’t let all the work be on you.
Any problems can be scary to face, but you definitely need to face them!