One of the hardest things you’ll ever have to do as an adult is going through a break up. Whilst it may feel as though your world is crashing down around you now, the chances are things are only going to get better from here. It may feel as though a happy ending is out of reach, but there are a number of bits of advice you can follow to help make the whole situation that little bit easier. With that in mind, here are 9 top tips for surviving a tough break up:
– Make Sure You Have A Strong Support System Around You
One of the best ways to ensure you come out of your break up a stronger person is to ensure you have a strong support system around you. Having people that you know you can count on not only means you’ll have people to talk to when you’re feeling lonely, but it means you’ll have people that will be there through both the good and the bad times. Chances are, they will be there even when you don’t want them to be. Whether it’s family or friends, a good support system is a must.
– Keep Busy To Help Take Your Mind Off It
Although you may feel as though you want to lock yourself up at home and never come out, doing things that will keep you busy is a great way to take your mind off the whole situation. Whether it’s going out with your friends or carrying on with your day-to-day life as normal, having things that will get you out of the house will help speed the healing process up. If you’re struggling to keep busy and you do find that you want to spend a lot of time at home, the best thing to do is speak to the support system mentioned above. They’ll be able to come with you, encouraging to carry on with day-to-day activities that may seem impossible at the moment. If you take it step by step, you’ll get there in no time.
– Try To Look Ahead To The Future
It will be hard to look towards the future at a time like this, but it is definitely something that can help. Think about all of the things you have to look forward to, encouraging yourself to be excited again. If it helps, write down everything you have to be excited about in a journal, counting down the days if needs be. If you don’t want to write a journal, a wall calendar is also a great way to visualise all of the incredible things you have lined up.
– If You Can, Unfriend Them On Facebook And Instagram
One of the best ways to help yourself heal after a break up is to delete them off Facebook and Instagram. Whilst you may still need to keep their number in order to contact them about important matters, deleting them from your social media means you’re less likely to check their channels. Although it’s not essential, it’s the best possible way to stop yourself from obsessing about what they may be up to.
– Throw Yourself Into A New Hobby
A great way to take your mind off everything that is happening around you is to throw yourself into a new hobby. Not only does it give you something else to focus on, but it gives you a chance to develop new skills. As the weeks go on you will learn to love your new hobby, taking your mind off the break up at hand. For tips and tricks when it comes to finding a new hobby, you can visit this guide here.
– Ensure You’re Getting The Hard Parts Out Of The Way As Soon As Possible
Although each and every aspect of a break up is hard, there are arguably some parts that are harder than others. Whether it’s giving your partner all of their stuff back or arranging child visitation rights for your children, you need to ensure you’re getting these things out of the way first. Whilst it may be tempting to put them off for as long as you can, the longer you leave it the harder it will get.
– Try And Get A Little Bit Of Exercise Each Day
Exercise is good for the mind and whilst it may not be your first priority, you should ensure you’re trying to get a little bit of exercise each day. Whether that means going for a walk on your lunch break or doing an exercise video when you wake up, you will really start to feel the benefits it can bring after a day or two. If you don’t want to exercise alone, why not ask a friend to come with you? They can encourage you and comfort you if you need it.
– Try Not To Make Any Big Decisions For The First Few Weeks
Although you may feel as though you need to make a lot of important decisions right away, you won’t be in a clear enough headspace to make choose the most rational option. Leave yourself a couple of weeks to recover, leaving and important decisions you have to make until you’re starting to feel more like yourself. After all, you never know what could happen.
– Practice Self-Care As Often As You Can
Finally, it’s important you’re practising self-care as often as you can. Looking after yourself is one of the most important things you can do in a situation like this, so making time for yourself should be one of your first priorities. Whether that means running yourself a hot bath after a long day at work or heading to the spa with the girls, self-care is one of the best ways to help yourself heal.
Are you going through a tough break up? What can you do to ensure you’re starting to feel better as soon as you can? Let me know in the comments section below.