Communication is essential in every aspect of life, but especially so in romantic relationships. Being in an intimate relationship means that the stakes are so much higher. Therefore the need for effective communication is all the more critical.
Whether your relationship is new or you have been together for several years, often you can feel like you don’t know the other person completely. Feeling that someone is holding something back in your relationship, that they are keeping secrets, or just not being totally up front with you is not only frustrating but can be unsettling too.
While no one can ever know for sure what the future holds, there is much to be said from being open and honest about your expectations. Here are three conversations that are useful to have in your relationships:
To Commit, or Not to Commit?
If your relationship started as casual encounters but now seems to be developing further, you may begin to wonder if this is going to evolve into a long term relationship. Of course, asking someone after just a few dates if they are planning to spend the rest of their life with you is likely to send them running for the hills. However, this is a conversation that you will want to have at some point so that you know where you stand. In the meantime, it is worth paying attention to how they talk about the future, but don’t overthink the situation and analyse every little thing they say.
The ‘M’ Word
Getting married is something that many people decide to do at some point in their lives. If you have dreamt of your wedding since forever, and already have everything planned out in your mind from your dress to your first dance, then marriage is important to you. If, on the other hand, getting married is your worst nightmare, then this is also important to bear in mind too.
As your relationship begins to get more serious and you both start to invest a lot more emotion and time into it, you will want to gain an understanding of where your partner stands on the subject of marriage to work out if it’s something that you share the same views on. If you have opposing opinions, this could lead to big trouble further down the line, even if things seem ok at the moment.
Children are a massive topic of conversation for any relationship and can be an extremely contentious issue. If you are desperate for kids, but your partner doesn’t want them, this can cause big heartbreak later on. Hasseling someone until they succumb to the idea of having kids, or your partner pressuring you into wanting them can lead to massive resentment and is not fair on either of you and especially not on your child. Knowing where you and your partner stand on the decision to have kids or not have them can save a lot of time and heartache for everyone concerned.