Most couples get married with high hopes that their love will last. They get married with the delusion that everything is going to be like a walk in the park. What most couples fail to realize is that a good marriage entails constant hard work, effort, patience, and understanding. It isn’t going to be easy. Because of these false assumptions, many couples are unprepared to face the difficulties together; thus, their union falls apart.
Keep in mind that a marriage doesn’t fall apart overnight. It gradually wears down and before the couple knows it, there is a huge gap between them. If you believe that you and your partner are going through a tough time, here are a few signs that it’s time for a divorce. Keep in mind though that most couples encounter two or more of these signs, but if you find that you are experiencing more than a few of these red flags constantly, then it may be a sign that it is time to move on.
1. You Don’t Spend Time Together Anymore:
You can’t even remember the last time both of you went on a date together, and it isn’t due to money or time constraints. Either you or your partner feel like spending time with each other feels more like a chore. If you find yourself dreading to go on a date or spend time alone with your spouse, it may be time to consider counseling or divorce.
2. You Start Comparing Your Spouse To Others:
While it is okay to occasionally appreciate another person and wish that your spouse have the same quality which you admire in the other person, too much comparison can lead to problems. Once you realize that you are constantly comparing your spouse to another person and wishing that your spouse would change certain things then it is a clear sign that something is wrong with your marriage.
3. You Always End Up Arguing Whenever You Talk:
Whenever you talk, you always end up exchanging unpleasant words. You feel like you are repeating the same old arguments and never come up with resolution. The arguments make you feel angry; thus, you start resenting your partner. You believe that your spouse can’t do anything right anymore or you feel like all your decisions and actions are unfairly analyzed by your spouse. All those little quirks you once found lovable about your partner now makes you feel so irritated.
4. The Relationship Has Turned Abusive:
The respect you once had for each other is now gone. You start to realize that your spouse is not treating you in a manner that you deserve. It could be physical or emotional abuse or it could be a passive-aggressive behavior. Once your marriage takes a turn for the worst, it is time to say goodbye and move on.
5. You Are No Longer Happy:
If you realize that your marriage has started to bring you down, it is time to evaluate your relationship and do something about it. If the marriage seems like a huge chore, if you are unhappy, or if you have lost confidence in yourself, it is time to take a step back and reflect.
If you experience more than a few of these signs in your marriage, it is time to take a closer look into it. Keep in mind though that divorce is a very serious issue and it may turn your life upside down. Giving up is the easy way out. To that end, even if divorce seems like the best idea, it is best to first try to work out your differences. You and your spouse can go to a couple’s counseling to try to save the marriage. If you and your partner feel like your differences are irreconcilable, it is time to seek a credible lawyer.
This guest post is written by Kris Hopkins. She occasionally offers relationship tips and advice. She also recommends Tad Nelson & Associates to her readers who are looking for lawyers who are familiar with Family Law.