There’s a difference between a regular couple and a happy couple and, nowadays, it’s difficult to distinguish between the two. Many regular couples spend hours trying to disguise themselves as a happy couple. And I guess we can’t blame them. We all want to be or at least look happy; it’s the key to life after all. But it’s not fair to the rest of us who are left thinking they’re soul mates when they’re really just two people filling up our newsfeed with corny statuses and wasting our time.
So finally, a way to distinguish exactly what kind of couple you’re dealing with, or even better what kind of relationship you’re in. Below is a list of things Happy Couples do that separate them from rest.
1. They Don’t Publicize Their Love On Social Media.
I’m not talking about a few photos together. Or even a whole album of photos. This is acceptable and will surely make your 82-year-old grandmother, who can somehow navigate Facebook, very happy. It’s one thing to be proud of the person you’re dating . It’s a whole other thing to shove it in everyone’s face.
If you’re constantly writing on each other’s walls, saying how much you love them or how you can’t wait to ravish them after work, there’s something wrong. (Especially if you live together.) There’s a reason you feel the need to make these private comments public. Either you’re trying to make an ex jealous or you’re insecure about the relationship. And sure, maybe neither is true. Maybe you just like to claim your territory or maybe you don’t have unlimited texting. But, if you were truly happy you wouldn’t have to prove it to the world.
2. They Put Away Their Phones.
Not because they have something to hide but because they don’t need to rely on the distraction of their cellphones. Whether out to dinner or in bed watching a movie, happy couples are fully engaged in one another. They’re not wondering what other people are doing or saying on Facebook. They’re not worried about missing out on their friends’ uninformative tweets. They’re too busy enjoying one another’s company.
However, this does not mean that Happy Couples don’t binge on Youtube Fail Compilations or hilarious Instagram accounts. They do this, as we all should… in moderation… because it is addictive.
3. They Stay In On A Friday Night and Go Out On A Tuesday Night
Happy Couples make up their own date nights. They don’t have to go out with the whole town in order to have fun. Weeknights are just as special as the weekend.
4. They Face Challenges with a Positive Attitude
Any couple that can get caught on a boat in a thunderstorm, 40 minutes from shore, where the waves feel like tiny tsunamis and your hands feel like icicles, and can laugh about it… well, that’s a Happy Couple.
5. They Do Projects Together
Even if their hobbies are different, a Happy Couple will make a point to accomplish something together. It could be as simple as cooking a new meal or as intensive as building a paddleboard. There is no greater satisfaction than working with the one you love and having something to show for it.
6. They Don’t Get Bored or Go Insane
There once was a couple who lived in a remote town on the side of a mountain, where it snowed 75% of the year and took thirty-five minutes just to drive to the nearest grocery store. Their only friends were each other, the people they went to work with and the dog they came home to. They lived there for two whole years. They were the original Happy Couple and would live happily ever after.
7. They Support Each Other No Matter What
You know you’re in the right relationship when your partner supports all of your decisions, even when you’ve decided to take one too many Fireball shots at the bar with your friends. They won’t question you or berate you for it. Instead, they’ll help you endure the hellish hangover and waste the day watching bad TV. They’ll also be supportive if you want to improve yourself, whether that’s going back to school to get your degree or dealing with the underbite you’ve hated for so long.
Of course, even Happy Couples can’t agree upon everything; it’s the way they handle these disagreements that makes them different. A partner that really cares will give their opinion without force. And if the other partner chooses not to take their advice, they will respect that decision.
A good partner is your number one fan. They root for you, even during your less glorious days. They want you to succeed because they see your success as their own. They don’t feel intimidated or belittled by your accomplishments. They feel inspired and proud.
8. They’re Not Afraid to Get a Little Weird
The perfect couple isn’t perfect all the time. They’re not always proper or mature or serious. They get each other excited. They act silly together. They make each other laugh. Whether it’s out on a date, at home, or even in the bedroom… shit should get weird sometimes!
Because it’s not that weird if you’re doing it together, especially if it makes you happy. And if you’re truly happy, you’ve got it all figured out.
Sarah Williams is a lifestyle writer specializing in men’s dating advice. Her mission is to help busy men of all ages find true fulfillment in social interactions. You can check out her tips at Wingman Magazine .