Having a baby is an absolutely incredible, life changing event and something that most women find themselves wanting to do as time goes on. But as awesome as it is, feeling your baby grow and kick inside you and then later, having them in your arms, there’s no doubt that pregnancy and motherhood is hard. Even the most laid back women find they feel anxious when they’re expecting, and not to mention that it’s tough on your body too. As a new mother, it’s easy to be so absorbed in looking after your baby that over time you can almost lose a sense of who you are. You’ll never be the same again after having a child (but it’s all for the better!), however, you still want to feel confident and keep a sense of ‘you’ here’s how you can go about it.
Find a flexible way to earn money
As women, we’re forever told that we can’t ‘have it all’ when it comes to kids and career. And admittedly, it is difficult- it’s something that women all over the globe have struggled with for generations. However, there are ways that you can earn a living while being there for your kids, doing so not only improves your financial situation but can give you confidence too.You could look into part time jobs, or you could start up your own home business. You could start a blog and monetise it, or take on some freelance work. The best thing about freelancing is you don’t need any materials or upfront costs to cover.
Start up a hobby
As a busy parent, you’ll be all too aware that you don’t get much time to yourself. You’re up early and in bed late, every day there’s a to-do list as long as your arm which you have to tackle to ensure your family have everything they need. While you might love doing this and take full responsibility for your children’s health and happiness, it doesn’t mean you should neglect your own. Taking up a simple hobby, even one that you can do from home an hour a week can help you de-stress, build your skills and your confidence.
Eating well can be really satisfying. Not only do you get peace of mind that your family is getting all the nutrition they need, but you’ll experience elevated mood, more energy and an improved physique as a result of eating the right things. Eating healthily doesn’t need to be expensive, in fact, it can be much cheaper than eating conveniently. Do some research into healthy, tasty and inexpensive recipes.
We all get that ‘mum guilt’ when it comes to spending money on ourselves, but we deserve to have occasional treats too. If your children have what they need, why shouldn’t we spend a little money on getting our nails done, our hair done or on a new outfit every now and again? Treatments like microneedling or microdermabrasion are safe and effective ways to bring some life back into tired skin- it’s these little treats that can boost your confidence and make you feel good about yourself.
Find new ways to spend time with your friends based on your new situation, you could also aim to meet new people who are in the same positon as you as a new mum. Go to baby groups, arrange playdates with friends who have kids. All of us know how hard it is when you’re home alone all day with a baby or young kids, how you crave conversation and interaction with other adults. Socialising gives you the opportunity to chat to other adults, have a laugh and keep a side of your personality which can become lost when you’re always in ‘mum mode.’