A lot of people assume that online dating is easier than meeting people in person. This isn’t the case though – online dating has become hugely popular in recent years and because of this there is a lot more competition. In order to match with people and get a conversation started, your profile needs to stand out from the crowd and you need to know how to message people. If online dating isn’t working for you, it could be a sign that you need to improve your strategy. Below is a small list of some of the reasons as to why online dating may not be working for you.
You haven’t optimised your bio
Almost all dating sites require you to have a profile or a bio. Make sure that you’ve included all the information here that you think will grab people’s attention from hobbies to achievements. Avoid negative language and dealbreakers as this could give off an immediate impression that you’re pessimistic and demanding.
You’re using bad photos
A bad photo is certain to put off prospective daters. There are lots of ingredients that can make up a bad dating profile photo. These include:
· Blurry/dark photos
· Heavily photoshopped images/cartoonish Instagram filters
· Old photos from when you were younger
· Group photos in which you are not easily distinguishable
· Photos with an ex
· Selfies and close-ups from unflattering angles (such as from below your chin looking up your nostrils)
· Long distance shots in which you are not easy to make out
You’re only using one dating platform
There are so many different forms of online dating out there. There are simple dating apps like Tinder, traditional matchmaking sites and video games that double up as dating platforms. You can even try phone dating – this free list of chatlines allows you to connect with numbers online. There are even video call dating platforms. By using a range of platforms, you can increase your chances of scoring that date.
You’re not messaging first
If you’ve matched with someone and neither of you have sent a message, it could be time to instigate the conversation. Unless one of you messages the other, there’ll never be a chance of a date. Men are often expected to message first, but that doesn’t mean that women can’t send the first message too.
You’re being too picky
Keep swiping left? You may be being too picky. By swiping right more and matching with more people, you can get more conversations started. During these conversations you may realise that these people who you previously dismissed have hidden qualities.
You’re being too pushy
Are you bombarding people with messages? Are you trying to arrange dates too early? It’s possible that your pushiness could also be preventing you from getting any dates.
You’re resorting to small talk
Any conversations you have should be creative and exciting. Don’t resort to boring openers like ‘Hi there’ or job interview style questions like ‘what do you do for a living?’. Instead think about questions like ‘what is your spirit animal?’ and original chat up lines.