Sexual intimacy is one of the most important components of a marriage. This is primarily because it’s one of the few things you two share with each other only. It’s a part of the glue that keeps you two connected. Not every relationship requires a physical aspect, but when you’re missing that physical intimacy, it can lead to more problems in the relationship. In order to deal with issues in the bedroom, consider the people you can turn to.
You and your partner are on the same team in this situation. Every decision the two of you make to find a solution to your problem needs to be made together, because it affects the both of you. Sometimes it’s just a matter of sitting down and talking things out, and sometimes it’s deciding on what steps need to be taken in order to find the solution. Sometimes, all it takes is an open, honest conversation where both parties keep their guards down, which isn’t always the easiest conversation to have. However, it can be a really fruitful one. Before you think of talking to any professionals, talk to your partner.
A sex therapist, someone like the professionals at Covenant Sex Therapy, are professionally trained to address issues of physical intimacy such as hypoactive sexual desire disorder and sexual abuse. They’re able to address, diagnose and normalize the conversation surrounding the concern in order to find a solution. Connecting with a discreet professional can be transformational because it gives you and your partner a safe space to experience true healing.
Physical intimacy requires physical tools. It’s not uncommon for a couple to feel discomfort when they become intimate after the birth of a baby. Changes in the woman’s body can shift the way she experiences pleasure. If a man suffers from erectile dysfunction, this will directly impact the quality of the intimate experiences. By seeing a medical doctor, a couple can address the physical issues and heal.
Sex isn’t merely a physical experience. It’s also a mental and emotional experience. It’s possible to have sex while your mind is on other things. Whether you’re stressed, dealing with grief or still upset about a previous argument, plenty of issues get in the way of a partner’s ability to remain mentally and emotionally present. By working through those issues with a couples’ counselor or a psychotherapist, you two can regain a healthier connection that impacts the bedroom experience in a positive manner.
As you focus on improving the quality of your intimate experiences, give yourselves time to adjust, learn and grow. A fulfilling, healthy sex life isn’t built overnight. As you give yourself and your partner grace to improve, you’ll both learn to adjust and connect with each other in deeper ways.