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Staying Close While You’re Far Apart

A lot of people won’t even entertain the idea of being in a long-distance relationship. Having cities or towns between you and the person you love can put loads of pressure on your relationship, making it hard to see one another enough. Along with this, while someone is away from you, trust and temptation become hard things to balance, with your connection to your partner slowly coming apart. Of course, though, it doesn’t have to be this way, and this post is here to help you.

 

To give you a fighting chance at keeping a long-distance affair going, it’s time to explore the different methods you can use to bring your relationship back together, even when you’re worlds apart. At first, you will have to do some work to get things ready for your first attempts using them. This will be worth it, though, once you’re able to stay in touch with the person you feel so close to.

 

Staying Close While You’re Far Apart

Photo by Gilles Lambert 

 

  • Communications

 

A huge part of any relationship is the ability to communicate with one another. If you’re not talking, or don’t have access to a way to talk, it will be impossible to maintain anything between each other. Of course, thankfully, the modern world presents loads of ways to stay in contact with those you love even when they’re around the world. Below, you can find some of the common examples people will use for this job.

 

Phone: Telephones have long been one of the best ways to stay in contact with people far away. Giving you the chance to talk properly, a device like this can be invaluable to someone when they are away. For your partner, having daily calls won’t be too much, and a lot of people in this position will rely on the phone to make the most of the time they have. Along with talking, modern devices also enable easy text messages to be sent without an internet connection.

 

Instant Messaging: Of course, though, nothing beats the web when it comes to sending messages which people will get right away. Facebook, Whatsapp, and Hangouts are all great examples of these tools. Thankfully, you never have to pay for a service like this, and you will be able to find apps for all of your devices. This makes them perfect for those looking to save money instead of running up phone bills.

 

Video/Internet Calls: Along with enabling you to send text which can be seen instantly, the internet has also revolutionised the phone. Using services like Skype, it’s nice and easy to have long video calls with people anywhere in the world. This can be handled over broadband, mobile networks, and even hotspots which you find around your city. While talking is good, being able to see someone adds a new level to this kind of interaction.

 

Making sure you keep up with the person closest to you will be a simple matter of forming a routine. Using your mornings or evenings to catch up with your partner will make it a lot easier if you’re doing it all the time, and a lot of people find regular communications to be the best. Of course, when doing this, you have to take into account any time differences between places.

 

Staying Close While You’re Far Apart

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  • Activities

 

Along with keeping in touch, having some shared interests can also enhance your time together, giving you the chance to enjoy more time with the person you care about. There are loads of different options to have to choose from to achieve something like this, but you always have to look for something you will both enjoy. Below, you can find some great examples of modern hobbies which can bring you and your partner together.

 

Photography: For a long time, taking pictures has been humanity’s best resource when it comes to collecting memories. This sort of hobby can be pursued alone, giving you the chance to learning and build some skills. During this time, if your partner is doing the same thing, you’ll be able to compare the snaps you capture, giving you both a clear idea of the work to be done. With modern smartphones, you don’t need a dedicated camera to serve a hobby like this, but it could help to at least have something a little better.

 

Gaming: Over the last few years, online gaming has reached new heights, and this field has well and truly began to grow. Giving you the chance to perform some quality bonding time with your partner, a game which you both enjoy could be the perfect way to keep yourselves nicely in touch with one another. Of course, it might take some research to find the perfect title, and some compromises may have to be made if you want to keep playing together.

 

Staying Close While You’re Far Apart

Photo by Clem Onojeghuo

 

  • A Plan To Get Together

 

Keeping a long-distance relationship going can be very hard. Not knowing when you’ll next see your partner will make this even worse, making it hard to look forward to your next meeting. For this reason, it’s always worth having a trip planned, even if you don’t plan to go for a long time. There are a few different ways you can make this sort of approach work.

 

A Surprise: One of the best ways to visit your partner is through a surprise. By talking to them and being interested in their life you will already have a good idea of what they might like from an event like this, along with the schedule they keep. Of course, you should know the person you’re with, and this will give you a good idea of what they might like before you give them the shock of their life.

 

Regular Drop-Ins: Along with taking them by surprise, it can also be a good idea to build some sort of routine for your visits. Like your communications, it will be much easier to keep things up if you do it regularly, and most people will want to do this, anyway. Having a chance to connect like this will make it a lot easier to maintain the feelings you have for one another. To make it a little easier, a lot of long-distance couples will take it in turns to handle jobs like this.

 

Something Permanent: There isn’t much better than being able to bring your partner to your home, giving them the chance to try life wherever you are, while also bringing the two of you together. With a green card marriage, you can hit two birds with one stone, bring your loved one to your place while also getting married in the process. This sort of move will be a big choice, and you will need to do plenty of research to make sure that you handle it correctly.

 

Not a lot of people consider what it might take to keep a relationship like this going before they get into it. While being a joy to see each other, giving you something to be excited about almost all of the time, it will also put you under a lot of pressure. Living away from someone you feel strongly for can be very painful. Of course, though, with the right effort, determination, and passion for each other, you should find it nice and easy to keep up with the work you’ll have to do. A lot of people find themselves feeling very alone when they are living like this. But, it doesn’t take much to make your time with someone a lot better, and it’s worth working hard to achieve this for yourself.

About the Author
Da Vinci, Editor in Chief of Your Life After 25, has carved out her own position as a “Realistic Optimist,” and modern day Renaissance woman. Your Life After 25 is the women's magazine for all women, but we put a spin on things and also make sure to embrace life for ladies over 25. Whether you're 25, 30, 35, 40, 50 or older we have something for you! Your Life After 25 "Believe It Or Not, It Does Go On"
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