How to Reinvent Yourself After a Breakup

A breakup isn’t an easy thing to go through, but you don’t have to climb in bed with a tub of ice-cream and cookies to get through it. In fact, a breakup can be an opportunity to reinvent yourself. You have a clean slate and it’s up to you to use it wisely. Even if you’re feeling heart broken, a breakup doesn’t mean your life is over. Try and look at the positive side and follow these tips to start a wonderful new journey.

Block Your Ex

There are some couples that can stay friends after they breakup, but the majority of us aren’t capable of that. No matter how much you try to stay mature, calm and reasonable, having your ex in your life is likely to drive you crazy at some point. And, these days it’s even worse because you have to cut ties in so many different ways. Face to face, over the phone, via email, on social media. The last thing you want to see is your ex having fun with friends or dating someone new with a cheesy picture uploaded to Instagram. Do yourself a favour and block the guy. You can learn how here –

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Don’t Get Drunk Alone

When the depression sets in, you may feel like re-creating the scene from Bridget Jones’ Diary when she sings ‘All by Myself’ while downing a bottle of vodka. Don’t do it! Not only will you make yourself feel worse but you’ll be tempted to contact your ex and say things you’ll probably regret in the morning. If you feel the need to have a glass of wine or two, call some friends and do it in company. It’s much more fun that way and your friends will stop you from making poor decisions.

Social Media Free

Social media can be a real pain in the ass when you’re going through a breakup. It’s especially tough if your ex has some of the same friends as you. You may not be able to avoid seeing pictures of him or hearing news about him when you’d rather pretend he fell off the planet. While your breakup is still raw, try and take a social media break. It’s difficult to do, but go for a walk, watch re-runs of your favourite show, anything to stop yourself from picking up your phone or tablet.

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In the weeks after your breakup, you’ll probably find yourself looking back on memories or repeating words that were said. You may even find that you realise your ex didn’t treat you as well as you’d thought. Many people become angry after a breakup for various reasons. It’s important to channel that anger into something productive, like boxing. Doing some boxing could relieve the stress and anger you feel about your relationship, and you’ll get fit at the same time. This way, you’re less likely to make mistakes in the heat of the moment.

Think About Your Career

Now is the perfect time to make bold decisions and experiment with what you want out of life. Take a look at and see what you can find. Sometimes, a career move can do the world of good. It can give you a new challenge to focus on and new colleagues to talk to. It can renew your ambition and love for life and help you to set goals for the future. That way, you aren’t constantly thinking about what could have been with your ex.

Have a Fling

It’s important to not jump into another relationship straight away, but that doesn’t mean that sex is out of bounds. In fact, a rebound fling could be just what you need to get your ex out of your head. Now is your chance to bag yourself a really hot guy; you know, the ones that are all body and very little brain. Have a mutual understanding that you’re not interested in commitment and then have some fun. It’s a great distraction during your spare time.

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Meet New People

If you and your ex have the same circle of friends, there may be times when your friends are forced to choose sides. It’s uncomfortable for everyone but you can’t ask your friends to stop talking to your ex. So, when there’s a party happening and your ex is going, it’s best for you to steer clear. You shouldn’t have to stay at home alone while everyone else is having fun, so it’s important for you to get out and meet some new people. Go to a class, enrol on an interesting course, sign up to the gym, go speed dating. There are plenty of ways you can make new friends and challenge yourself at the same time.

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Write it Down

If you live in the same area as your ex, it’s inevitable that you may bump into each other every now and then. Even if you don’t acknowledge each other, you may walk away feeling emotional. Pent up emotions don’t lead anywhere good, so it’s important you let them out in a controlled form. Don’t call up your ex and leave a long rant on his answering machine. Buy yourself a notebook and write down everything you feel. It can help to write a letter to your ex, and never send it. That way, you’ve expressed your feelings but not got into a pointless argument.

Don’t Blame Yourself

You’d have to be a pretty confident person to not look back and think about what you could have done differently. What it of made a difference if you’d dyed your hair blonde? Maybe you should have watched more football with him? Or maybe you just weren’t laid back enough? Forget it all! You weren’t the problem. You just weren’t suited as couple, and one day, when you’re in a relationship with someone who values you for who you are, you’ll realise that.

When you go through a breakup, you’ll inevitably go through the motions until you feel like you again. But, if you use your breakup to invent yourself, it could be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.


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